October 24, 2018

There’s no question: If we’re going to raise boys that grow into men who are self-aware, empathetic, compassionate, accountable and far less violent, then we need to create spaces where boys can discover and discuss what it means to ‘be a man’. The few programs like this that exist are having a profound impact on…

December 5, 2017

Even though emotional transparency is essential to mental health, it’s a difficult skill for many men to develop, especially if they were taught to embrace traditional forms of masculine identity. Learning how to become more demonstrative is a way men can find the emotional connection they need, even if words fail them

June 15, 2017

More than any topic I’ve written about, this one is central, core to any possibility of constructing a healthier masculine identity for boys and, eventually, men. It was selected as one of the top 10 Well articles in the NYT for 2017 (#5) and was the springboard for a popular talk I give to educators…

October 14, 2016

While the trope still exists that all fathers should want sons, the reality is that many younger men who struggle with business-as-usual masculinity have worries about bringing a boy into the world—so do a growing number of women. This is about the quest to overcome those concerns and, yes, the burgeoning stigma of boys.

April 4, 2016

This essay that appeared in the Ed Life section was my maiden salvo appeal for a new breed of healthier masculinity. It had 1.5+ million reads online and opened the door to a spate of public radio interviews and, ultimately, my first book

January 23, 2015

I don’t cry often, but when I do I don’t hide it. This essay is about my journey to reach this place of liberation with my own vulnerability, especially as a man. It led to interviews with an NPR affiliate station and the Canadian Broadcasting Company.