March 7, 2022

In the conversation around what it means to be a man, there’s a tug-of-war between two sides that control much of the public discourse. On one side, there are people complaining that young men are too ‘soft’, that they need to stop whining, ‘suck it up’ by swallowing back their feelings – other than anger…

August 26, 2020

More than any topic I’ve written about, this one is central, core to any possibility of constructing a healthier masculine identity for boys and, eventually, men. It was selected as one of the top 10 Well articles in the NYT for 2017 (#5) and was the springboard for a popular talk I give to educators…

August 25, 2020

A few years ago, a large corporation that creates body care products for younger men asked me to offer feedback on their TV commercials over a two-year period. This clued me into other commercials aimed at young men, especially fathers, and a disturbing trend that’s plastered across cyberspace, too: The nurturing love fathers show daughters…